Irrespective of whether you feel self conscious around the majority of women, or only around that one girl you like, it can be really disheartening. You don’t know how to ask her out or even start speaking to her. If you do speak to her, you have difficulty coming up with something interesting to say to make her like you. You wish she was your girlfriend, but you have no idea how to achieve that.
In this post, I’m going to show you a couple of easy tips to begin conquering your shyness around girls. It may seem like an impossible thing to do right now, but once you know the exact steps to take, it becomes effortless and logical.
So why don’t we start out with the primary issue? Why do you feel self conscious around girls? Often it comes down to you feeling like you are lesser status or lower value than them. You feel for some reason inferior to them. Moreover, notice how around girls who you aren’t as attracted to, you don’t feel as shy around them. This is because they don’t have the attractiveness which ordinarily intimidates you. So how do you overcome inferiority so you can act self-assured around the girls you like? One way is to find out what is making you feel inferior and fix it. If you have crooked teeth, get them straightened. If you are overweight, start hitting the gym. If you feel ashamed of the clothes you wear, get a new style. If you think you’re a loner, learn how to make friends.
But what about problems you can’t fix? What about if you were just born way shorter than everyone else? What if you are just uglier than average, no matter what you do? In these cases, I would suggest that you just do whatever you can, but then learn to live with your appearance as it is and learn to accept it. Everyone has their flaws, and girls aren’t really looking for the flawlessly perfect guy anyway. I’m sure you’ve heard before how girls pay far less attention to a guy’s looks than to his personality. In my experience, this is true. Sure, there are some girls who only like good looking guys, but this is the minority. Most girls will look past any physical shortcoming you have if you are just confident and can make them laugh.
Instead of trying to make your appearance perfect, work on improving your social skills. The more you talk to girls, the less shy you will become. As you talk to more and more girls, it’s almost inevitable that you will find a girl you have chemistry with.
If you want to learn more about being less shy around girls, then click to read my blog on how to overcome shyness here.
